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In a world that’s accelerating towards AI & automation, what sets us apart isn’t speed or scale, it’s creativity. The biggest myth we’re here to dispel is that creativity is only for artists. That’s a lie.
In today’s episode, we’re joined by MaryLou Kayser, who has spent the last 30 years as a coach, speaker and thought leader around the power of creativity.
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time is the one resource we cannot get back you can alwaysgo out and make more money again life is too short there's
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that cliche the days are long the years are short and boythe older you get the
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more real that becomes is there anything else you want totouch on before we wrap up I guess I would end
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with in a world that's accelerating towards Ai andautomation what sets us apart isn't speed or scale it's
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creativity welcome to the learn itall podcast the show fortoday's leaders who want to get ahead and stay ahead because
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we believe great leaders aren't born or made we're always inthe making I'm your host Damon lby two-time best-selling
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author and CEO of learn it a live learning platform that hashelped upskill over 2 million people over the
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past three decades on this episode of learn it all podcastI'm joined by Mary luu hazer who has spent the last 30
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years as a coach speaker and thought leader around the powerof creativity
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coming up Mary Lou will be sharing her thoughts on whycreativity is not just for artists how to build up your
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creativity through daily practices how to practically stepout of your comfort zone and the play your position
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framework that helps you improve your life you believe thatcreativity can be the ultimate competitive Advantage
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especially in today's digital age but what do you say topeople who think they don't have a creative bone in their
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body oh that is such a common response and I'll I'll askquestions I'll get
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curious they say well why why do you think that I want toknow where did that come from and over the years I've
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discovered that a lot of it came from school there this ideathat because they
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couldn't draw or they weren't good at art class or in in ain an English class
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where there was creative writing elevant you know they werecomparing themselves
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and so I'll dig a little deeper and say okay well what doyou like to do in your free time and so many people have
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hobbies whether it's knitting or cooking or working in thegarage and I'll say you're creative and they're like oh I
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never really thought about it that way so this this ideathat creativity is the
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ultimate advantage in a highly Digital World especially withartificial
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intelligence coming along and being able to generate thingsso fast having
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something that is uniquely through you your vision and itdoesn't matter if
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you're following a recipe or if you're sewing and you'reusing a pattern there's still that that sense of
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engaging with an idea through your hands through your voicepeople who sing right
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or perform um and even with even with digital tools we canbe creative in ways
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that sometimes I I think people forget that that iscreativity and why
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do you believe creativity is such a critical tool these days
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because it's what makes us human in in a world that feelssometimes
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like the human is being taken away from us because ofmachines um because of uh how how
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digital everything has become and certainly because ofartificial intelligence holding on to what makes us
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uniquely human is essential to remember that you always havea choice about what
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you make how you respond to something that you see um lastDecember I was at the Museum
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of Modern Art in New York City and museums are places thatcelebrate human
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creativity throughout the centuries and there's such athat's what people sometimes affiliate with creativity like
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well I'm not an artist yes but are you a parent you arebeing creative as a
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parent you've got to come up with Solutions creativity isabout problem solving it's about finding a solution
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sometimes on your feet it's about improvisation if you're ona phone call in a business meeting and somebody
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throws a question out of left field your ability to thinkcreatively on the spot
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is going to probably either advance or you know sideline the
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conversation we have to learn to trust that our brains aredesigned to solve
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problems to see the world through our own unique experience
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and that matters that's valuable where there's a lot ofcookie cutter stuff um
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where there's a lot of sameness there's a lot of what I callthe franchise you know mentality where
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anywhere I go in America if I walk into a Starbucks it'sgoing to look like a Starbucks and that's part of their
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Creative Edge they don't want every Starbucks to lookdifferent that's not part of their brand my point is if we
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all become the same because we give up our
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individual creativity the spark that we bring to the worldthrough everything
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from how we dress to the stories that we
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tell uh all of it I put under that umbrella of creativity II'm totally
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with you on that now question I got is you talk aboutlearning to trust
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ourselves more when it comes to uh being creative whatadvice do you have for individuals who need to increase that
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trust something I do I'll just use myself as as an example Ipractice what
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I call my holy hour every morning and what that entails iswhen I first get up
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I go downstairs I heat the kettle of water I make my cup oftea I write in my
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journal with a pen on a blank sheet of paper for 20 minutesand I just whatever
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is on my mind it could be I had a very Vivid dream and I'mrecording it it
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could be me wrestling with a question around my business itcould be me
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recalling what I did the day before or what I'm excitedabout coming up could be anything at all but it's it's just
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the act of writing for 20 minutes and then I'll do 20minutes of some kind of
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movement it could be yoga might be just dancing around mykitchen I put my headphones on and put on my playlist it
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could be walking on the treadmill it could be walkingoutside when the weather's good and I can get out and then the other 20 minutesis
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for getting my head right I might read a section of a book Imight listen to a
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podcast I make recordings of visions that I have for my mywork you know some
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people call it a manifestation what I'm working towardsbecoming and I'll listen
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to that and I get up early enough where I can give myselfthat hour and why
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that's so important is because it does reinforce the trustin myself because
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I'm checking in with myself first I'm not jumping on myphone and answering
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notifications I'm not turning on the news and letting theoutside world you
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know interfere and and steal some of that trust because nowI've been impacted
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by a weather forecast or something that a politician isdoing or a natural
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disaster in the world I mean that protecting that sacredtime first
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thing in the morning allows me to get through my day at ahigher level of
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trust in myself than if I don't do it and I've been insituations where maybe I'm traveling and
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it's harder to do that holy hour right I try but it it and Ido notice a
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difference because other things are coming at me and theytake energy away
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from me saying okay I've got this um I think trustingourselves is one of the
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most important things to put time into and it's also one ofthe hardest because
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it people say well of course do I it's not even a questionwe ask ourselves is
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it you know when was the last time you sat down and said youknow Damon do you
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trust yourself on this I mean it's it's getting intopractice of saying I have to trust myself as a younger leader I
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thought I had all the answers I thought a lot of times thatI that I wasn't know it all and one of the things that I've got better at Imean I wrote a book
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about it the learn it all is I've become more humble andcurious and open to
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asking people questions um and maybe assuming that I'm notalways
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right yeah I think that comes with with maturity and withexperience the I
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compare when I think about who I was in my 20s for examplewhen I first went into uh public education and I was
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teaching and the the level of of trust in myself now to
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be able to say I don't know what I'm doing I don't have allthe
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answers I'm not always right is much greater now than it wasin my 20s when I
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felt like I had a lot to prove and I didn't want to lookfoolish
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in front of my students or my colleagues and that can get usinto
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trouble because if we just keep barreling
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ahead in answering to well I have to be right I can't Ican't look like I don't
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know what I'm doing or that I'm you know out of alignmentcan actually end up backfiring worse and if you just stopped
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and said you know what guys I don't know I got to get backto you on this I am
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absolutely stumped and sometimes I've learned with anaudience if for anybody who's listening or watching who speaks
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to audiences I've seen speakers get tripped up on this
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when either the audience isn't responding to them or theysaid something that they realized oops I
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shouldn't have said that and rather than stopping and sayingoh gosh that was I
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just put my foot in my mouth didn't I and that makeseverybody relax and say yes you did and we still love you right
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you're because you're being real right which comes back tothe whole human thing when we're able
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to um trust ourselves enough to say oh yeah I just screwedup people are going
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to respond so much more genuinely to us than if we try tomake it seem like
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wellow you know you you caus this you know what and I workI've worked with people like that where they wanted to
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blame everybody else for their own inadequacies instead ofsaying oh man I
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really screwed up didn't I and everybody goes yeah you didand we still love you and I see more and more these days
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that's who people want to work for th those are the peoplepeople want to follow um genuine real people I I had a
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wonderful guest on named Gary Ridge the CEO of uh the formerCEO of WD40 and he
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said the most powerful sentence he ever learned was I don'tknow and uh his new
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book is called uh any dumbass can do it I me it's amazingright you know and it's just like just be be authentic be
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yourself people want to see you with your guard down thanalways trying to have like you have all the answers and
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everything I think it's so important how did you and I'veheard you talk about this a lot where you've always been able
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to get yourself out of your comfort zone you know you yousay you you'll go right to the edge uh and me and other people
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it took a while to get there uh what advice do you have forindividuals who are maybe stuck too often in their
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comfort zone you just got to do it I mean and that's thequick answer is when you recognize that something is making
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you uncomfortable or you're feeling that tension between youwant to take a leap
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versus Retreat back to what you've always known I say takethe leap now as
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long as it's moral and ethical and safe right you don't I'mnot talking about literally jumping off of a cliff here
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right I want to make that very clear putting all your or orputting your entire Savings in an investment that
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maybe could go wrong correct correct cor um I I would saycalculated risks and I
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can say that now because I didn't always calculate the riskI was taking and I
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have I have uh you know battle scars from that um however
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the the question you're asking is you know for somebodywho's listening or watching and thinking I just can't ever
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seem to do anything that is outside my comfort zone
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um you might just start with something small um this maysound kind of strange
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but one thing you can do is instead of going to the grocerystore you always go to go to the same grocery store but in
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the next town over you know just take yourself out of yourusual
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routine or go to a different grocery store altogether if youshop at I mean I
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used to shop at Fred Meyer in outside of Portland Oregon allthe time if you shop at frm go to Trader Joe's instead right
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if you're always going to the big box stores like BJs orCostco go to a small
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local grocery store it anything to change up your
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routine just a little bit where you're not going to see thesame faces you're not going to see your favorite checkout
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person you're not going to maybe run into your neighbor umanother interesting and it will probably sound
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very different but trust me on this it really really works
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is get some notebook paper or a blank journal and for thenext 30
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days spend 10 minutes writing with your non-dominant handsome kind of
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simple affirmation to yourself like um you deserve that newFerrari or
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whatever it is right like something that you want somethingpositive and write it 10 times with your non-dominant hand and
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then stop and then the next day go back and you can writethe same Mantra or you can C up with another one do that for 30
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days what that's going to do for your brain it is going toopen your brain up
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in ways you will be amazed you will look back and just thatact alone might give
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you enough courage and impetus to try something that you'vebeen dancing
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around the edge a little bit cuz most people who arewatching this and are and or
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listening they have something in mind that they're wantingto try or do and
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they haven't yet and so if you're not quite ready and we'renever are that's another fallacy you're never ready when
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everybody says are you ready I'm like don't even say that noI'm not you're never ready there is there is no such
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thing as being 100% ready ask any professional athleteOlympian athlete
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anybody who speaks for a living and gets on stage you arenever ready to go out there and you do it
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anyway yeah I love it I mean it it it it's goes back to kindof like what Richard sure Richard Branson said you
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know screw it let's do it yep sometimes it's just saying yes
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and then and then having to figure it out you know becauseonce you've committed to it and you're not going to back out you're just goingto find a way
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to get it done and like I heard you say as long as it's notgoing to put you in
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danger or it you know it's immoral or whatever just sayingyes committing to it and pushing yourself out of the
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comfort zone hey at least give yourself a pack on the B paton the back for trying right a lot a lot of us don't I I
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think that's wonderful advice and I'm going to try theleft-handed thing you know I'm I'm a right-hander and I'm really interested tosee see how that
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works um the thing is is is sticking with it um rememberingto to add it into your day but I was I remember when I was
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first exposed to that strategy and you're going to laugh athow bad it
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looks but it's not that's not the point it's not it's notwhat your writing looks like it's that you're doing it and
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I my advice is don't don't pick a long sentence because picksomething short
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like you know five or six words like you you know you areamazing you know
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something short and just oh 10 once you're done with 10you're done um I'm
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just curious Damon and all the time all the people you'veinterviewed over the the years and the um the different
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stories you've had are there certain categories of thingsthat you've noticed
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people dance around going for but hold themselves back Iwould say a lot of the
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individuals that I've interviewed who are super successfulone of the main things the
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traits that they say they have is their ability to get outof their comfort zone you know and try things and then when
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they reflect back on you know some of the things they wishthey would have done differently is they would have learned how to do thatsooner I guess is
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is what I'd say you know that there's some regrets they hadwhether it was an acquisition they didn't make or a girl
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they wanted to ask whoever whatever it is right two of thethings that I've seen is they learn to get comfortable with failure and alsoMary L kind of
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like you mentioned earlier they don't have the victimmentality you know that they they take they take accountability
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and ownership when um things things don't go right so let'stalk about
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something that uh that a lot of people are stilluncomfortable with that is you know super critical these days and it's
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Ai and AI literacy I uh was doing some of my research on youand I like your metaphor around how you talk about how
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AI is like fire so let's unpack that one a little bit oh mygosh yeah AI
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um it's here it's burning and it is fire is is a powerfulmetaphor especially
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with what's happened recently in this country um and I'msensitive to that oh
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yeah and it's also reality um fire is actually if you've
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ever spent any time around forests or know people who liketo spend time in
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Forest it is Nature's Way of actually growing the forestit's Nature's Way of
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clearing out what is no longer necessary to bring in thatnew growth
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and I do see AI as this thing that it's
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here it is Raising questions it is causing people you wantto talk about uncomfortable it is causing a lot of
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discomfort and a lot of fear uh there's a lot ofmisinformation and misperceptions about
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Ai and hence why I have you know stepped
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forward and said let me help you become more AI literate youknow my background is as an educator and I worked with
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literature and writing in the classroom with students tohelp them become better critical thinkers better writers better
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readers better humans right that's always the goal ofEducation
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um and because it's burning it's it
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feels like it's burning out of control right now there'sthat natural response
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of we either have to put this fire out completely and stopit before it destroys
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everything which I think you and I would agree is amisperception it's not going to destroy everything but at the same
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time we do need to learn how to work with it and if you'renot careful what
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happens with fire you get burned or something that seemssmall at first Rage
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is suddenly out of control and it's bigger than you realizedand um
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so again as a as an educator somebody who loves guidingpeople
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through that transformation whether it's around what thethemes are in The
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Adventures of Huckleberry Finn or it's okay you have theseAI tools you have
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these AI programs what do you what can we do with this it'sall fundamentally it's the
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same principle it's getting out of your comfort zone beingwilling to
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try and if you find the right people to work with that willhelp you you will
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probably not get burned and you'll probably begin to see howoh wow this is
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incredible I can now use this for myself and again the firemetaphor what
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do we use fire for we use it to cook right to nourish ourbodies we use it
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for heat we use it for light these are good things you've
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written six or seven books you know you're a writer youwrite poetry there are a lot of professionals out there
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especially writers who are super resistant because to AIbecause they look at it like it's going to water down
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my voice is it cheating what do you say to them especiallysince uh talking off camera
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you got a new book coming out and and you leverage a ey forit so let's talk a little bit about that I was one of those
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writers when chat ch first hit the scene in November of
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2022 I my immediate response was oh no you know uh oh we wewill no longer be
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needed because I I saw immediately I was like oh my goshlook what this can do
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but then because of my venturous spirit I thought all rightlet's take a step back here let's you know hold the phone
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right um and I started I started experimenting and I thoughtall right
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this it's this is not as uh threatening as I initially myinitial response was
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to it I would again say to people especially writers
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is um again going back to trust yourself you have a uniquevoice you have a
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unique way of putting words together to express ideas andthat way will'll become even
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more Val given the amount the sheer volume of
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garbage that people are generating with AI who are notwriters and don't
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understand that you can't have your sentences have the sameRhythm over and
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over again and that there's certain phrases that are clearindicators that somebody just put a prompt in Lifted it
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and put it out there um so again it comes down to
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uh stepping into one of the names of my books is the far andlit unknown you've
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got to be willing to step into that far and lit unknown andgive it a try and if it's through a course where it feels a
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little bit safer and there's some guard rails around itthat's great do it that if you just want to pull up the tool
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yourself I mean they're all out there Claude Gemini co-pilotchat
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GPT um and do a comparison you know take
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something that you wrote 5 years ago or 10 years ago or evenlast year right on
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your own just you in the keyboard or you in your journal andthen come up with a prompt
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that if you take yourself back into school where yourteacher gave you assignments and said okay we want you to
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write a compare and contrast essay about you know the themesin The Great Gatsby
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or whatever um come up with a prompt that would
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generate a piece that's like what you wrote all on your ownand then compare
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the two it's fascinating it's I've done that a few times I'mand what chat PT
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comes out that's my favorite tool by the way I know I talkabout that a lot I like chat GPT the best and I have I've
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had philosophical conversations with people who preferothers and that's fine it's it's really it doesn't matter what
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you choose what really matters is get in there mess aroundwith it um you it is
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not human all it can respond to is what you tell it and itis it is all about
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predicting patterns and it is all about what already existsand that's where the
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creativity and the human creativity comes back in bringingthis full circle is right now and I don't AI cannot
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invent on its own it requires you as a human to guide it andand so
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um is it cheating I thought that too it's not
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when you know how to use it right is it cheating if you giveit a prompt and then lift the whole thing and then paste
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it and say I wrote this yes I think that's that's not firstof all why would
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you do that you don't why would you want your name onsomething like that you want your name on what you did did but
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if you learn how to use it as a strategic thought partneryou learn how to tell it how to work with your ideas
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with your content that's the power trusting it fully on itsown just throwing something
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in there and then sending it out to the world that may saveyou time but it's going to be awful and as we go on and on
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and on it's easy to go on LinkedIn and Instagram andimmediately see an
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inauthentic post where somebody has just got emojis and thesame sent in structure all the time and I think
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you'll agree with this it's not necessarily in some cases uha timesaver
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and a shortcut right because you got to actually use yourthought process to to
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work alongside of it you do so in writing this this bookthat I that I've
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I've currently written and I'm working with a human editorum because I believe
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in that um um and but as I was working with chat
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GPT on clarifying ideas and and helping me I have a tendencyto write really
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long sentences and so what it's good for is telling it Ineed this sentence not
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to be so long and it's a timesaver could I do that on my ownof course I could
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but in for argument sake what what the process uh of workingwith chat GPT to
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write my book which is all my words it's all my ideas Ididn't tell it to write
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the book for me I used it as my assistant my uhbrainstorming partner
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when I got stuck um I know something that you're a bigadvocate for Damon is
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um when you were on my podcast you talked about this is makeyour AI your 11th team member if you have 10 people
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on your team and let me tell you I'm a solopreneur I don'thave a team I have a
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podcast editor and producer who I Outsource I Outsource myeditor I've worked with her for years on my own book
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projects and clients when I was um helping clients writebooks what the AI has allowed me to do
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is I have been able to build a team that I can go to becauseI figured
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out how to prompt it and I get feedback now here's the keyand you just said it
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I have to look at that feedback and put it through mycritical thinking lens I
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don't just take it at face value I have to ask myself isthis accurate is this true do I really want to follow this
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advice but that's again the power of the human and theMachine um a quick story
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my nephew is a sophomore in college he um uh he knows hisaunt is a former
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English teacher and can help with essays and so when he umwas home for the the
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the winter break um he was applying for an internship and hehad to write an essay so he called me up and he said hey
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can you help me do that I I really um appre you know reallyvalue you so he
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came over here and this was our process he had the questionsthat he
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needed to answer in the essay so I turned on my phone voicememo app and
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and I interviewed him and we recorded it and he told me hisanswers to the questions in his words then I took that
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file I sent it to my AI transcription service within twominutes I had the
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transcript back he and I sat down at the computer and lookedat it in a Google doc I copied it pasted it into a Google
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doc I uh we looked at it and said okay you know is this thisis the content you
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want to say and we made some adjustments and then I said allright now what are we going to do he said we're going to
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put it into chat GPT I said yes we are so we took that rawdraft that was his
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asked the chat to please make this flow do not change the
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content do not change the voice do not CH none of that boomdone I said do you
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want to read it or do you want me to read it to you so youcan hear it he says I want you to read it to me so I can hear it when I read itto him the
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his face he could not believe it his parents could notbelieve but it was him
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it was his voice it was his stories it was his words thechat didn't write it all it did was clean it up that's not
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cheating what if somebody struggles with knowing the righttypes of questions to ask it that's yes well that's where
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someone like myself someone like people you've interviewedon your show uh Damon
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come into play you find find the people who can teach youwe're we're out here you know I I
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was telling you in the pre- chat I am so excited aboutteaching people how to use
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these tools it's not it's not about
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the it's not about the glitz and Glam about I see these onYouTube ads all the
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time is that push button publishing where you just give it asentence and it writes a book for you and you know five
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minutes or whatever it's not that it's you amplifying yourGenius your Edge
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your magic and shaving enormous amounts of
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time off the process and also being able to see things youdidn't consider that
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was something that came out of that with my nephew is therewere a couple of things that when he heard it back he he
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said wow I said that and I saides you did let's go back heyou know look at the
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transcript it can mirror back to you the way you think butyou have to learn how to talk
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to it properly um and there it it it isn't just what mostpeople think it is
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like please help me write a better email and Mary L that'swhere I give you a little push back is how you refer to it
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as a tool to me Excel is a tool I I think that we need tohave the Mind
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shift that AI chat GPT or CLA or whatever is is again whatyou were
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saying it's a thought partner you know it it it's it sitsnext next to you so
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it's not like a hammer and a nail where you just going tothe Hammer is going to hammer it in right you know it's like it
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it can't really you know think for itself it h you have toprovide it the the context and the information and keep
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working through it if you want to get uh the end resultsthat you need thank you for calling me out on that because I'm
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I'm working on changing my vocabulary because the way it isit has been presented is it's a tool and what you
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and I and other people are beginning to do is Elevate itsstatus now again it is
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not a human I've had those conversations with people whoLaugh In fact I tell a
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story in my book about uh a couple of of people in one of myMastermind groups we
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were talking about using AI uh for writing and there werethree of us
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talking about it one of one of them is a programmer he'sbeen he builds um
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bespoke you know uh it programs for companies and has beenin that world for
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a long time and then my other friend and I we're more of thecreative my friend is a French teacher and I'm a writer and
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creative and all this stuff and the the French teacher and Iare really excited about these you know like he likes
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Claude I like Chachi PT our other friend said he startslaughing he goes
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he's like guys you realize that it's not a human it doesn'thave emotions
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and like well yes it does you know so again you can start tobegin thinking of
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it as a real person and have to remind yourself it's notit's not but I have to
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say everything I look at now and I got this from a mutualfriend that that you and I have that we've both interviewed
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Jeff Woods is I look at everything like not anymore like howcan I do this better how can I do this better
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leveraging Ai and and think about things that way bothpersonally and professionally um now one of the things
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we've also talked about offline which I think is reallyimportant is personal agency when it comes to not just AI but
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all these tools in general so what are your thoughts on thathow much time do we have this is if
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I get on a soap box this is the Soap Box I get on I am ahuge huge proponent of
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you must always protect your personal agency your
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ability to choose we are living in a time when
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personal agency is being in some cases overtly taken awayfrom us but more
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covertly it's a slow build it's a slow burn part of my bookis exploring my own
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experience where I woke up one day and asked myself thisquestion question I
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said Mary Lou when did you stop noticing what you weregiving
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away that brings tears to my eyes because I look back overthe last I've
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been in the online space you know I jumped in again I'm afast action taker
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I saw what it could do I wanted to learn I messed around Imade a lot of
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mistakes um but I'm a dreamer and I'm a Believer and I sawthe potential and I
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saw what it was able to do and when I look back over thelast 17
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years have I had a great life in many ways absolutely have Igiven away a lot
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of my time to something that gave me nothing back absolutelythat's the personal
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agency each person owes it to themselves to fairly regularlycheck in and say how
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much in control of my time and my day and my life am I
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really how much am I responding to the notifications on myphone the the whole
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Pavlov's dog of the modern world where stuff is coming at usall the time to
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the point where I hear people the battlecry now is I'mexhausted I'm overwhelmed I don't know what to do I
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work so hard I have no time for this that or the other thingand that's to me
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that's the signal that okay time to take a hard stop andcheck in with yourself and say what what are you giving away
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and what do you need to take back and that's personal agencyif you're comfortable with
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sharing when you ask yourself that question what what is anexample of something that you gave away my
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marriage yeah um I tell the story about that in the book
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and um in your new book or your no the new book okay thebook that's coming out
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um that's one of the stories I tell um I also gave away
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um time with my children that I can't ever get back now
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I I was fully present well I nobody's fully present I washighly present for
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my children when I had them because uh after my divorce uhyou know their dad and I
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shared time we we co-parent really well but we were livingin separate houses
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and I didn't have my kids all the time and I also um my mydaughter would come
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in and I'd be on my computer and she say mom get off thecomputer honey I'll be
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right there I just got to finish this thing yeah what whatwas I finishing
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what what was I doing I don't have any memory of that and sothere's a lot of little stories
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about big things and little things um that you know againtime is the one
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resource we cannot get back you can always go out and makemore money you can always go out and make more money
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you cannot get you cannot get your children's childhood backyou cannot get
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a relationship back um and I'm not saying that some relationships don't
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need to end okay not saying that at all I'm saying that thatwas one of my big
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wakeup calls thank you so much for being vulnerable enoughto to share it and
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I'll give you an example and I try to do my really my bestto be present but I got to tell you the other day my
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three-year-old said Daddy put your phone away I'm talking toyou that really puts things in perspective as well right yeah
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um well you and I met as we switch gears a little bit hereyou got an awesome podcast called uh play your position
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what does that mean to you play your position it meansshowing up fully who
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you are wherever you are and literally playing full outdon't leave anything
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behind it's again life is too short there's that cliche thedays are long
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the years are short and boy the older you get the more realthat becomes and
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um I'm also a huge sports fan uh college football wouldprobably be my favorite
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uh you and I were talking about that is we're both sportsfans I mean I know you love baseball I love baseball too and we're in springtraining right near
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right now and player position I think does come from thesporting world and when you watch a team that is clicking
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each person on that team is playing his or her position in away that allows the
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the unit to accomplish a goal and kind of on a macro level Ifeel we each have
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a responsibility to play our positions so that we are movingthe world forward
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in a positive direction knowing that there's forces that wecan't control and
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there's things that are going to happen that really suck andif you can again
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coming back to personal agency and creativity and all thethings that I love and believe in recognize
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that not everything is going to work out and sometimesyou're going to drop the ball sometimes you're going to strike
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out in the bottom of the ninth with three men on and twoouts and you only needed to drive one guy home to win
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right I mean it's what was that show I don't know if youremember growing up um the
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wild Wide World of Sports where it was like you know theagony of defeat it was
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like the extremes and I feel like you know when again whenyou can own your life and say
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I'm I am who I am and it's okay that I can't do everythingthat I don't know
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everything that I can't play every position but I can playmy position really well and that is worth
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something um and so at the foundation of my show that'sthat's what people are
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talking about even though the questions have to do withanswering the call to leadership and how did you get to do
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what you're doing now and tell me a story about a time whenyou did fumble the ball and you didn't win the game you
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know all that stuff stuff you've been doing your podcast forover 11 years now
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uh before everybody has podcast these days yes right so howwould you say that
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over the 11 years that hosting your podcast leading yourpodcast has helped you mature or grow
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personally or professionally that this life is not about meI'm just passing through that there are people who are so
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much farther ahead in life not I'm not talking about age
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I'm talking about just knowledge wisdom which is okay by theway I just
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want it's okay for that for our listeners out there to to tosee and understand that it absolutely is that
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humility and being able to receive the the wisdom fromothers
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has has humbled me has helped me uh really get serious aboutmy personal
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growth T making a commitment to that not just giving it air
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play but truly diving in and studying the great thinkersover the
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Millennia it's helped me uh improve I I've prided myselfmost of my life as
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being a good listener but being a podcaster I've definitelyimproved my
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listening skills skills my ability to improvise anotherskill that I've had
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for many many years uh because when you are standing infront of a room of of 30
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students who are looking at you and expecting something youlearn to
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improvise really fast that your agenda sometimes needs toget thrown out the window and that's happened on my
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show where especially early on when I followed more of aformula I had a set
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of questions I realized you
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know when you and I were talking Damon I remember there werethings that you would say and I thought wow I got to go
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there and instead of being locked into well
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this is my agenda so what I hear you saying is it made you abetter listener I couldn't agree more with that you know
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both personally and professionally and it is out of yourcomfort zone I actually get I actually was pretty
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nervous before coming on I even told you right because Imean you're a pro at this so uh gets
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you out of your comfort zone makes you a better listener youget to learn people's stories of what they've done and like you said sever ofthem are are
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ahead and it also kind of leads you into our final you knowthing I wanted to
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talk about a little bit is really think about what you wantto get out of life and and what your legacy is and I know you do a lot of workon that let's talk
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a little bit about how you really Define what Legacy shouldlook like
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yeah that no big questions here oh
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man oh Legacy well I those two amazing
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humans that I you know brought into this world and was sofortunate enough to be a part
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of their life and seeing how they are functioning in theworld and bringing
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goodness to the world is I I I can't imagine a greaterLegacy um
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again on a meta level I would say I would want people to toin remembering
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me um that she was she was willing to take the risks
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she was willing to try the thing she cared
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deeply about people and um Wanted to make this world
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just a little bit better thanks for sharing that becauseit's something that you brought up before uh we came on the
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air was you know one of your goals one of all our goals isto help people really think about you know what do we
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want to get out of this life and as somebody who's over 50myself you know
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you start thinking about that more and looking at yourfamily and I look at the people I hav't learned and and and the
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work we do for our our customers and you know I I hope thatone of
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my things I leave as a legacy is that contribute to buildingbetter leaders
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for the future because we need that I think You' agree withthat 100% we do leaders who do all the things
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we've talked about today you know exhibit
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authenticity creativity the ability to improvise the abilityto listen to care
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to say I don't know I don't have all the answers aners butwe can figure this out together
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let's do that is there anything else you want to touch onbefore we wrap up I guess I would end with you do matter no
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matter what you're doing right now no matter where you'reheaded that who you are right now is
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important to at least one other person besides
47:48
yourself and life can get life can feel difficult andthere's
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always always a different way of looking at it
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what you're doing here Damon on the learn it podcast andwith your your company and with the people that you
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work with is exactly what the world needs more of is juststep into
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your your greatness just a little bit more whatever thatlooks like for you
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and trust that it's going to make a difference thank youMary Lou we did
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talk about a lot today uh we talked about uh creativity thatit doesn't have
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to be natural it could be a learned skill uh and it also canbe a big
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advantage in this digital age if you leverage it and you getbetter at it uh I love how you dove into AI especially
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since our first conversation and we talked about AI literacyand and how the right way to go about using Ai and and
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the wrong way really the importance of learning how to getout of your comfort zone and when you should get out of your
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your comfort zone and maybe when you should look before youjump into things as well and then of course you know what
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you learned over the years in your podcast and and so manyvulnerable wonderful things you shared that was
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huge for our audience you got a new book coming out maybeAugust maybe October we talked about that a little bit and where
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else can our audience connect with you at so my Hub onlineis my website which
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is Mary ler.com M a r y l o u k a y s r.com
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and you'll be able to there's links to the show the podcastyou can learn more about my books you can buy the books um
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you can see what I'm up to uh I've got um just some excitingthings around um
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how we can have more personal agency in a digital worldwhere it can sometimes
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feel like you're not controlling your choices so thank youfor that Damon oh
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thank you and so listeners and those of you watching onYouTube what I'd like you to do is think about somebody or a
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bunch of people who could get value out of this conversationwhether it's somebody who's just being resistant to
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Ai and they want nothing to do with it send that to themwhether it's somebody who's frustrated and and thinks that you
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I'm not a creative person you know I just know how to dothings a certain way send this episode to them and if you
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know somebody out there who maybe is struggling to believein themsel um I think they can get a lot of value out of
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this as well so those are your those are your taskslisteners out there and as
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always until next time stay curious keep learning have agreat day thank you everybody we help companies sell better
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